diff --git a/src/relays.rs b/src/relays.rs
index 9964b03..e9fa3c7 100644
--- a/src/relays.rs
+++ b/src/relays.rs
@@ -35,8 +35,17 @@ pub fn default_relays() -> Vec<RelayConfig> {
 ///   conversation across relays the signer never reads.
 /// - wss://relay.snort.social accepts ephemeral 24133 publishes but does
 ///   not persist them; with damus out it adds no shared ground.
+///
+/// Sep 23 PM addendum: Amber 6.6.5 receives our pairing publishes on NONE of
+/// the above (its activity log shows only the Connect ack; our get_public_key
+/// RPCs are accepted by both relays but never answered). Amber's own issue
+/// history documents NIP-46 working over relay.damus.io, and a same-day
+/// write-canary from this network shows damus connected + accepting ephemeral
+/// 24133 publishes, so damus rejoins the set FIRST — the signer is most
+/// likely to meet us where its own client is proven to work.
 pub fn pairing_relays() -> Vec<String> {
     vec![
+        "wss://relay.damus.io".to_string(),
         "wss://relay.primal.net".to_string(),
         "wss://nos.lol".to_string(),
     ]