Standalone Shonar Desktop: vendor portable sources + local engine; decouple from ~/Projects/Shonar

- shared/ = portable Android-origin sources vendored from deferred/desktop-server
  (app/build.gradle.kts srcDir repointed; PlaybackController.kt excluded as Android-only)
- backend/ = bundled-lite engine (SQLite + inline queue); .venv symlinked from the
  old checkout, PYTHONPATH pins THIS backend's code over any editable install
- repoRoot() resolves this project dir (env SHONAR_REPO still wins); desktop-dev.sh
  watches shared/ + backend/
- Verified: :app:compileKotlin + :app:test green (23 tests); engine boots on :8010,
  self-migrates, /healthz ok

.gitignore

@@ -0,0 +1,9 @@
+.gradle/
+build/
+app/build/
+.kotlin/
+backend/.venv
+backend/__pycache__/
+**/__pycache__/
+*.pyc
+.dev-restart-flag