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New pages: conflict resolution, communication guidelines, community meetings, daily schedule, emotional hygiene, and community foundations worksheet. Fill TBDs in house rules (substances, dogs, guests, natural products), FAQ (what to bring, food policy), transportation (shared vehicles, hitchhiking), and shared responsibilities (chores, kitchen, weekly schedule). Link everything from getting-started index. Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>
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| Communication Guidelines | Guidelines for communication, active listening, and co-regulation in community |
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Communication Guidelines
Communication
| Focus | Practice |
|---|---|
| Speak from "I" without absolute framing | "From my perspective, I think/feel/believe that..." |
| Observe before interpreting | When in doubt, return to clear language free of mixed interpretation |
| Demonstrate active presence | Posture, eye contact, replace fidgeting or repetitive gestures with mindfulness |
| Tone & sensory awareness | Calm, steady, without competition — favor silence over filler words |
| Make clear, doable requests with collective engagement | "How do we break this down into something we can do now? What would feel like a good next step?" |
| Commitment to growth | Everyone has agreed to learning, expanding, and growing — not fixed in "that's just who I am" |
| State needs simply | "I notice I'm feeling xyz, I'll need to sleep on it and I'll revisit this" |
Listening
| Focus | Practice |
|---|---|
| Compassion over reactivity — pause before responding | Hold space rather than taking up space; raise hand rather than interrupting; limit disruptions through empathy and increased tolerance |
| Curiosity over certainty | Leave space for others to process information. If I think I know something absolutely, I'm likely wrong — leave space for questions and uncertainty |
| Mirror to understand & appreciate | Reflect back what you heard even if you disagree or don't fully understand (yet); use affirming language to show gratitude and favor connection |
| Observe intent vs. impact | Sometimes words hit in ways they are not intended — be more impeccable with our words and don't take things personally |
| Respect capacity | We try to enter meetings with presence but we cannot force others to engage due to our own discomfort or stress |
Co-Regulation
When reactivity or disruption is noticed, follow these steps:
- Pause — pause when reactivity or disruption is noticed
- Reground — regulate through movement, breath, closed eyes, silence, etc.
- Repair — when calm and steady
- Resume — when collective regulation is restored
Additional Practices
- Open and close shared spaces intentionally — set the container and ground rules
- Use appreciation and forgiveness rounds
- Keep written notes and summaries: what was decided, who's responsible, what's next, and schedule follow-ups